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Projection.  Blaming others.  Controlling due to lack of self.

More than liberal writeoffs, it's pervasive in society.  It's saturating if someone counters lies with truth.

When someone wants to avoid analysis of any sort, they often pass off their problems to others/another.  They think they are protecting themselves and may well be hiding sort of, in plain sight.  They are destroying themselves and perhaps others by eschewing truth.  It will catch up.

A specific instance is child custody.  When custody is warranted for one the other might well attempt projection and the other terms previously mentioned.  

Sole custody stacks the deck, save for obvious cases of abuse etc.  If a prejudiced judge won't listen, even visitation gets left by the wayside.  

Outside of court the 'court of public opinion' often slants the situation.

Let us say an irresponsible person, in all aspects of marriage, will ascribe his/her faults to the other.  They wish to condition and turn a child against the other parent.  Often friends and family aid and abet this, maybe adding their own motives and those oh so hidden sins/problems/crimes.  

Some simply cannot face their problems and make excuses by demonizing someone else.  They swamp others with those problems, turning them around.  They may compensate for abuse with a 'know it all' attitude to bolster themselves, instead of facing problems and solving them in a healthy way.  

Control, to put it mildly, is a cop out.  Instead of maturing and coming to grips with self control, they prefer a lazy 'let the other guy do it' method.  Mind you this is not as serious an explanation as, say gov trying to destroy rights or making a family member submit.  Eventually, this leaks into evil and has a fallen air.  

Blaming others is the petty result of ignoring cures and is kin to control.  

Face things.  Captain Cliche says truth will out.  Painful and dangerous, it's true.  

Balance head and heart.  Be yourself and let the world see you truthfully.  Seek others who are like minded.

Above all, be on the side of Light.

PS: Don't ignore political/social engineering aka brainwashing.  Same answer.

Hooked

 Lotta soft use for this.  A supreme liking for something in any venue.  People forget the deeper use for this.  

Addiction is pervasive and much analyzed.  I won't delve that far.  Please research more fully.

I just want to remark on a few things.

Obsessive.  A need for something w/o which someone is lost, sick and dying; even though it often leads to death.  

One can become addicted to almost anything.  Drugs, booze, food, spending, gambling etc.  It's all retreat.

Just a little to get through becomes more til there is nothing else.

True there are a few socalled 'functioning' addicts but they walk a tightrope.  Like chemistry there might be an inbalance.

Often addictions are coping mechanisms to placate abuse.  And often abused is fueled by addiction.

The whole thing is decay of family/humanity.  The solution becomes a problem.  

Reality.  Ignored.  Destruction like having tea in a burning house and saying everything was fine.  

Some survive.  Others don't.  Find out how.  

Some are prone to addiction.  Some aren't.  Stress drinking is a common example and can be stopped.

Seek and you shall find.  

Face reality every day.  Because nothing else will be left.

You

 Not me.  You.

Not the accusatory you.  It's the personal you, It's individual and group.  It can be an arrow pointed at the heart, not to harm, but to motivate.  To be made available.  

It starts with you.  You have to figure out what you can do.  You see what's going on and something resounds.  Starts with a tick then a bang and soon an engine running.  

1 you then 2 and more and more.

Can't tell you what to pick.  Whatever touches you.

So what makes you tick?

Time...

 The sands rapidly drained.  Then we upturned the hourglass and started another year.  Full of promise and potential?  Yes, as long as we are cognizant.

The earth turns.  It will turn in weal and woe.  Up to us which.  Don't let God's gift of time be wasted.

My hope this time around is for justice and Victory.

Be aware.

Use your time.