Thursday, January 20, 2011

Beyond Victimhood

Ruthann Popcheff was a good friend of mine. She worked for Victim Assistance Program at Indianapolis Police Department.

She truly helped people in trouble. There was no bandaid treatment from her. She truly cared and was literally there for victims especially of violent crime.

It sickens me to see how 'victimhood' has become a cause celebre especially among liberals.

Mind you I am a fervent supporter of self defense in all aspects.

But it remains that bad things can happen to good people. When they do, folks need help.

Like the rest of counseling, dealing with victims is the same in that one should help people to help themselves.

Like anything now it's how victims are treated. Compassion, confidence, support, a basis to rebuild. This, carried through and you can get beyond victimhood.

Active listening and reflecting back what the victim says is the road to self help.

What is offered instead today is a wallowing in self indulgence. A careful manipulation of emotion where no one gets better.

Immediate compassion gives way to someone controlling due to lack of self. that stems from a careful excision of self replaced with indulgence and dependence.

Once actual self help is initiated, beyond victimhood is more than just a catch phrase. It is a way of life.

The difference is simple. A person is left to determine a path for him/herself rather than developing a dependency on a guru to decide for them

It's the difference between caring and burying.

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