Wednesday, March 30, 2011


Another of my two way streets.

It is given not forced. Don't push your way in. You might bite off more than you can chew.

On the other hand, some people can 'kill with kindness'. There can be a smothering cloying attentiveness. It is obsession. It is an insistance that you accept what's given you and like it.

Learn to be gracious. That's the keystone of hospitality. Of course that's nigh onto impossible for someone pathologically bent. They want to take care of you, whether you want them to or not.

As guests, we are obligated not to take advantage of our host. A polite request should do. We mustn't feel entitled just because we are given run of the house.

Culturally what is given and how hospitality is dealt with varies. But it is a free gift, given in personal respect for self and others.

The price is cheap if it is free.

If it is coerced, there might be hell to pay...

1 comment:

henry said...

Nothing worse than rude guests except for rude hosts.